You’re at the bar and you see a group of good-looking chicks. You’re afraid to approach but you want to. You try to make a move so you move in slowly. The girls don’t notice you so you say to yourself that you’ll wait for them to look your way before you say something to one of them. The one you wanted to talk to looks at you and it catches you off guard so all you do is look at her and not say anything. All of a sudden you see the girls move to another part of the bar. What happened?
What happen was you made the group feel uncomfortable… even their gay friend who was sitting with them. Signs of anxiety feels weird for you and the person you want to approach. Let me give you the scenario from their point of view:
We see a guy across the room. He looks a little shy because he’s sitting there by himself looking at the dance floor. “Anyway what were we talking about? Oh yeah…” Wait a minute the guy is walking in this direction. Maybe he spotted one of his friends he was waiting for. He stopped. He stopped right behind us and now he’s looking at one of my girl friends. Maybe if we ignore him he’ll go away. Okay he’s been standing there for two minutes now’s it’s getting creepy. “What happened? He’s still there? I’m getting scared what is he doing? (she turns around to see what he’s doing) I’m gonna give my girls the signal to move to another spot.
Now you see how signs of anxiety can affect other people. When your body language looks nervous and awkward, it starts to look creepy to other people. I’m sure you’ve been out with friends and you wanted to approach a girl. You walked up to some girls but you couldn’t get the words to come out of your mouth so you just hovered around the group. Just like the example, they move to another spot. Some girls will get their bodyguard friend (you know what girl I’m talking about… the cock-blocker who chases all the guys away) to tell you something.
What if you approached and one of the girls actually invited you to sit with them? What if one of the girls actually liked you? You never know unless you approach. Even if you get rejected it wouldn’t feel as bad as a bunch of girls leaving because you made them feel uncomfortable. You can get the confidence to not only approach one hot girl but a group of hot girls. Rejection won’t be an issue anymore. Your signs of anxiety will vanish because you won’t be anxious anymore. All you gotta do is follow the link below to find out how…