Does this sound familiar to you? You like this girl. She’s beautiful–big beautiful eyes, beautiful smile, amazing body, etc. Every time you see her, you can’t work up the courage to talk to her. Why is that? Is it because she’s gonna bite your head off? Is it because if you talk to her, she’s gonna run away? No, it’s a little deeper than that and you’re making every excuse in the book on why you’re not talking to her. “She may have a boyfriend”, “She looks like she doesn’t want to be bothered”, etc. The real reason why you can’t talk to her is because you feel inadequate. You think she’s out of your league.
You’re not alone feeling this way. Believe it or not but some women feel inadequate as well. But this is about you. Feeling inadequate around people links to being shy. Men who are shy don’t take the actions they need in order to get what they want. This is why these shy men don’t get the girl, they have the girl cry on their shoulders because her and her boyfriend got into an argument. Feeling inadequate doesn’t stop with the girls you like, it goes into other areas of your life. You may miss a lot of parties because you feel like the people who are gonna be at the party won’t like you. You may miss out on getting that job you wanted because you feel like it’s too good for you.
So how do you get rid of social shyness?
Stop Trying Too Hard To Impress Other People
When you feel like someone is better than you, you may feel the need to prove yourself. The problem is trying too hard makes you look weak. As I said in my previous posts, confidence is everything. Confident people don’t try hard to impress, they improve themselves so all they have to do is “do”. Confident men don’t try hard to impress women, they just approach, talk, and see if there’s chemistry between him and her. Confident people don’t try hard to make friends, they make friends by the kinds of people they are. But keep in mind that confident people always work on improving themselves… even if it means taking a lose.
There’s No Such Thing As “Out Of Your League”
When you take yourself out of a person’s “league”, you have made yourself less than that person or those people. Social shyness is really being shy because you feel that the you’re less than the people around you. I don’t care if you’re talking to a lingerie model. I don’t care if you’re talking to a billionaire… no one should be out of your league. Understand and internalize this, and you’ll see your attitude improve when it comes to socializing and approaching women.
Work On Improving Yourself Regularly
The reason why people feel inadequate is because they may not be competent in certain areas of their lives. You may not be good at talking to people, so you feel inadequate talking to people. You can’t be good at everything, so you want to improve the most in areas of your life you feel are important. You may need to read a book, watch videos, or listen to audios, but whatever you do, you want to practice so you’ll get better.
Get rid of shyness by being a better person. In order to stop the feeling of being inadequate, you have to be a better man. When this happens, your confidence will increase, making you get the results you want.
Actions To Take
1. Get in the habit of reading and watching video on areas you would like to improve.
2. Practice in the areas of your life you would like to improve. If you don’t practice, those books and videos are just forms of entertainment.
3. Give yourself time. Be patient because big improvements don’t happen overnight.
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